6 ways to detox your communication
Language can confuse things terribly.
Sometimes, it just takes one wrong word, and we’re on the warpath (or crying in the corner).
While it also has the power to make us greater than ourselves, what we say and how we say it can often cripple the people around us (and ourselves).
It’s frightfully easy to notice when someone else’s words are dragging us down, but do you know when you’re doing it yourself?
Detox your communication right now
Spend the week focusing on these communication detox tips, you won’t have to worry that you’re offending when you don’t mean it.
Leave your attitude at home
Well, leave it in your mind anyway (you probably don’t want it to come out at home either). Put yourself on an equal footing with everyone you speak to. You may be the boss, but that doesn’t mean you deserve more respect than the people that work for you.
It’s much easier for people to choose the right word (and a nice way of delivering a message) when they are in a relatively peaceful state of mind. So, unclench your jaw (and your fists) and take a deep breath. It’s no coincidence you were probably taught to count before opening your mouth.
It’s quite possible that your colleague did something to jeopardise your career intentionally, but it’s equally possibly that he didn’t. There’s usually no court of law in interpersonal relations – and accusation equals condemnation.
Learn to listen
Some people make it all the way through life hearing only what they want. Unfortunately, this will never get these people ahead (at home – or at work). Listening to what another person says can be rather tedious and difficult, but it’s the best way to improve any relationship.
Lower your voice
The softer you speak, the less poisonous your words sound. Now, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t make yourself heard (especially in the boardroom), but you should never sound as though you’re shouting or talking down to someone; that stings.
Honesty really is the best policy
Some people are too afraid of hurting others. They’ll go so far as to sugar coat the truth, or avoid spelling it out until it goes away. Then again, honesty doesn’t need to be aggressive; it can always be delivered with sensitivity.
Any of these sound like something you battle regularly? Or, perhaps you notice one of them in what you hear other’s saying to you. There’s a steady chance that person is reacting to your words. Don’t wait for issues to settle, detox your communication now.
Review your words – and your meanings – for the rest of the day. Take notes, or record yourself. You may just be surprised at what you hear.
It’s difficult to make radical changes, even if it’s vital. You can start small, as long as you start somewhere.
Be proactive about your language. Expand your vocabulary, and when you stumble on a new word, make sure you understand its hidden meanings.
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